Our Mission
At Arena Mindset, our mission is to empower athletes, parents, and youth to transform their lives by cultivating Authenticity, Purpose, Resilience, and Grit.
We are uniquely positioned to come alongside both parents and their young athletes, or parents that are looking for better communication and healthy relationship dynamics.
We work with individuals to embrace their true selves, building self-confidence and trust that fosters stronger connections.
Authenticity
We establish a foundation in each athlete to find the 'WHY' that drives sustainable success.
Purpose
Resilience is a crucial part of an athlete's character that enables them to recover and adapt in the face of setbacks
Resilience
Grit is the secret ingredient for passion and perseverance and successful achievement toward long-term goals.
Grit
Package 1
Parent Coaching
The Parent & Youth Relationship Package partners with parents to foster deeper understanding, trust, and lasting connection with their children.
Healthy communication and setting appropriate boundaries can be tricky especially in today’s fast-paced world. At Arena Mindset, we partner with parents to foster deeper understanding, trust, and lasting connection with their children. Through guided coaching, we help you navigate challenges, strengthen bonds, and build a relationship that thrives—both now and in the years to come.
DESIGNED FOR
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Parents looking to strengthen their relationship with their child or teen
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Families navigating communication challenges or boundary-setting
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Creating a foundation of trust, emotional resilience, and mutual respect
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Equipping parents with tools to support their child’s growth and well-being
Package 2
The Mental Edge
Designed for athletes of all ages, all sports and at all ability levels, The Mental Edge Package is performance-oriented coaching that develops the mental fortitude and tools to achieve a personal best.
During the coaching sessions, we'll start by assessing mental strengths and areas of potential growth. We'll work self-narrative, empowerment through ownership and perspective adjustments so that the athlete moves towards a growth mindset.
The curriculum takes a step-by-step approach to maximizing confidence and mental control through applicable techniques.
DESIGNED FOR
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Professional athletes and those looking to reach their personal best
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Develop mental focus and emotional regulation skills
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Reduce performance anxiety and maximize enjoyment
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Develop a repertoire of practices to focus the mind for control
Package 3
Parent & Athlete Connection
The Parent & Athlete Connection is a unique dual-facing coaching package that supports both the parent(s) and the child athlete by assessing the dynamics of this crucial supportive relationship.
The parent-athlete relationship is crucial due to the level of influence and support that the parent can provide to a young athlete.
In the this package, Melissa will meet with both the parent and the athlete—sometimes together and sometimes individually. The athlete will will be run through a program similar to Package 1, which helps them find a positive self-nariative and ownership.
Melissa will work with the parent(s) to develop a healthy perspective on how to effectively communicate with their child for positive relationship development and a growth mindset.
DESIGNED FOR
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Combination coaching package for athletes and their parents
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Gives parents the tools to communicate effectively and provide maximum support
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Athletes find their own intrinsic purpose for competing
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Athletes grow in mental focus, emotional regulation, and reduction in performance anxiety
Coaching Packages
ATHLETE • TEEN • CHILD • PARENT
Focused Areas of Growth
While we dig deep into the nuanced situation of every child, teen, parent and athlete, we fundamentally focus on the core aspects listed below.
Intrinsic Motivation
Developing a personal "Why and Purpose" in their sport is essential for every athlete. This sense of purpose becomes the foundation for true commitment and focus.
We guide athletes to speak in definitive terms like “I can” and “I will,” fostering the mindset necessary for commitment, risk-taking, and learning from perceived failures. When an athlete understands why they want to finish, they are more likely to finish successfully.
The Process
Success comes from focusing on the process rather than the outcome. Just showing up on rough days is a win. Failing forward and learning from missteps are valuable nuggets of growth. Shifting focus from perfection to progress helps athletes build resilience and long-term success.
A defined process creates routines, maintains focus, and develops muscle memory—both physical and mental. When an athlete has an established process, they have something to lean on when things go wrong. This sense of structure helps settle nerves, providing a feeling of control even in uncertain moments.
Self Narrative
It’s essential for athletes to control their self-narrative and perspective, learning to compete with composure and professionalism. We help athletes re-frame "unfair" circumstances, maintaining focus and poise to finish the job.
Assessing internal dialogue is key—success begins in the mind. We'll work to fine-tune this inner narrative, shifting from negativity to positivity and from victim hood to gratitude. For better or worse, self-narrative shapes reality. By mastering their internal dialogue, athletes and parents can align their mindset with their desired outcomes to help create the reality they seek.
Boundaries
& Expectations
We help parents establish age-appropriate, healthy boundaries and goals for their child. By exploring personal drives, we clarify the line between healthy goal setting and enmeshment which will foster development towards a more confident and independent individual.
We take your family values into account to define and communicate clear boundaries and expectations. When children see healthy boundaries consistently maintained, they learn to respect those limits and develop the confidence to set boundaries in their own lives.
Communication
& Environment
We help parents find a balance between compassion and direct communication, which is foundational for creating an environment that fosters a child’s sense of safety, character, and resilience.
We raise awareness of current communication styles and provide tools to adjust both verbal and non-verbal cues. This helps parents validate and support their child while communicating disappointment in ways that build authentic confidence rather than a false sense of ego strength.
Accurate Recognition
& Healthy Response
Every child is unique, and we help parents develop an accurate understanding of their child’s strengths and weaknesses. When strengths are celebrated and weaknesses are approached with patience and support, children learn that success isn’t about perfection—it’s about growth.
We equip parents with tools to respond thoughtfully to both achievements and setbacks. Encouragement fuels confidence, while constructive guidance helps children build grit and adaptability. This balanced approach empowers children to face life’s challenges with a strong sense of self and the courage to keep going.
ARENA MINDSET
Unique Benefits
of the
Program
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Melissa's strong clinical background allows her to assess each client's learning and communication style to reach optimal outcomes quicker.
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Clients are given direct and measurable assignments that are tailored to each individual's needs.
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Melissa will work with other coaches and professionals to dovetail curriculum and develop a uniform message. After all, it takes a village.
Melissa Proctor
ABOUT
After more than 15 years as a clinician in the mental health field, Melissa has shifted her focus to coaching specifically with athletes and parents. Her extensive experience with teens, young adults, and parents—combined with her background as a highly competitive athlete—sets her apart from other coaching programs.
We came to Melissa Proctor for parent coaching during a time of tremendous stress for our family. We have split households, our daughters are with their mother half of the time at our house half time. We were struggling to understand how to support them in the aftermath of a divorce and addition of Hillary as a stepparent. Establishing age-appropriate boundaries and expectations were something we were struggling with, and how to negotiate that rules might be different at their mothers' house. Through our sessions with Melissa we were better able to understand our daughters, how divorce and disjointed parenting affects children and how to instill our values in our children without being permissive or authoritarian in our parenting. Her ability to interpret and explain family systems was different than anyone we have ever worked with and made sense. She was easy to open up to and made understanding parenting clear.
Hillary & Aaron L.
Get in Touch
We offer a free, 30-minute consultation to address any questions and concerns you may have before starting the coaching program. This gives you a chance to meet Melissa, and she can help assess the most beneficial next steps.
